“Some people, every time they engage with others, are an energy drain.
They take persuading, cajoling and enthusiasm to get going, and require ever
more of it to keep going.”
I think it is important to teach my students how to identify
those that such the energy from them.
Too many times my students are spending energy trying to
make friends and get others to like them. They want to belong. They want to
feel less isolated and lonely, so their peers are important to them. The students
need to find the right people who encourage them and help them move forward in
their lives.
If there is someone who will “step” on me in order to move
up in life is not the person I want to hang around with.
If someone belittles me in order to feel better about
themselves, they are not the person to consider a friend.
If someone who constantly whines or complains a lot, it can
suck the positive energy from me and infect me with this negative energy.
Someone who is negative all the time can suck the positive
energy right from me and keep me from achieving my goals.
The hard part is that these energy suckers are sneaky. They
can sneak into my life and hang onto me like Velcro without realizing it.
Before I know it, I feel depressed and hopeless. I don’t want to take risks in
order to learn new things because I’m afraid of failure.
The biggest skill is recognizing who they are and taking
action to distance myself from them.
By modeling this behavior, I’m showing my students how to
identify the energy suckers and try to find better friends.
How do you recognize and deal with the people who suck
energy from you? Please share.
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