“So the next time you look a little green-with-envy, think of how you can bask in that warmth, too.”
When I read this this post, it made me think about the times that I have done something good or rewarding and I’ve been hesitant to talk about it in fear of bragging or making others feel bad. In fact, I had a friend mention that I just liked attention and that I was a too boastful.
I am afraid that society has made people afraid to feel good about their actions. It seems like not only should we not talk about our own actions but we don’t praise the good that we see others do. Look at the news. Everything is negative and there are very few times we see the good in people. The few positive stores that are mentioned and people act bored or not interested. Bad news sells and good news doesn’t.
Many administrators are too busy putting our fires (dealing with problems) to adequately praise the teachers who are doing exceptional things. I think it is important for teachers to let their administrators know when they do something good. In fact, the good administrators appreciate it because it is refreshing to hear something positive.
There is nothing wrong with tooting your own horn. It is okay to feel proud of yourself and it helps your confidence and self-esteem. By doing so, you are being a great role model for your students. You can show them an appropriate way of sharing your good news without putting others down.
The ones who make you feel bad are the ones who wish they had something to brag about. When they say things to make you feel embarrassed rather than being supportive, it is time to confront them about their own actions rather than retreating back.
If you hear someone else tooting their own horn, help them share in the joy. Support their victories and make sure your words aren’t tearing them down. Be a good friend/colleague and help them shine. You can do this by telling them how proud you are of them or sharing their news with others (especially administrators who might be interested in this).
Do you toot your own horn? How do you do this? Please share.