Wednesday, February 21, 2018

Disagreements


“How do you disagree? Do you express your disagreement with the person’s actions but affirm that you care about the person? Or, do you defend your opinion so profoundly that you leave the person feeling that you only love them if they agree with you?”

When I was growing up, my parents did not argue in front of us. I never saw them have a disagreement. So, when I got married, I had a problem arguing with my husband when we disagreed. I saw arguments as a sign that something must be wrong with my marriage, so I didn’t argue and figuratively set all my problems in a closet. Then one day, I couldn’t take it anymore and the closet opened. I let my husband know I was unhappy with his action from two years ago! He was shocked. Finally, I learned that I couldn’t achieve any results if I waited that long and we needed to argue to work things out. Now, 36 years later, my husband thinks I do this way too well!

I also feel that I don’t have to agree all of the time with my friends. If they are my true friends, they will like me even if I don’t agree with them on certain things. I know that many of my friends have different political views than I do and they feel as strongly as I do so why argue about it. I know that I can’t change their view and I know they can’t change mine. So, when we get together, we avoid that topic. There are so many other things that we do agree on that I don’t let the things we don’t shape our friendship.

I think many students have trouble with this idea. Many students have not reached this stage in development where they can do this, but I think it is important to be an example for them and keep sharing this. I see students thinking they have to agree with everyone or they won’t be like. They think that they won’t be part of the group if they don’t agree with everyone. It is important to teach students to think for themselves and not have the “crowd mentality.”

I think a great activity would be to role play how to disagree. Have students come up with real situations that a student might face and role play how to handle the disagreement. This is like having a fire drill and being ready in case an emergency comes up. If students can practice what they will say before something happens, they can be prepared.

How do you teach students to handle disagreements? Please share.





Tuesday, February 20, 2018

My Empty Chair

In Empty Chairs Matter from Cool Cat Teacher Blog by coolcatteacher@gmail.com, Victoria A Davis, Cool Cat Teacher shares,

“Feel time passing? Live your life as a legacy of a life well lived. Write the story only you can write.”

I hope that when I’m gone, and people are talking about me that they can say good things about me.

I hope they seem me as a positive person always starting the day off on a positive note. I try to start each day by posting a happy greeting online to start off my day. I try to smile when I’m around other people and try not to complain about things. I have a policy that if I have nothing nice to say, I don’t say anything at all. I think that people respect me more for this and that they will remember that I was like this.

I also hope that they see me as being persistent and that I try not to give up when things get tough. I think this means that I try to do something that I want to do but if I need help, I’m not too stubborn that I won’t ask for help. This was something that I really had to learn to do and didn’t come easy for me.

I want people to know that I loved to learn. I love learning how to do new things. I tried to learn something new each year. I loved to research things that peaked my curiosity. I am a lifelong learner and I’m proud of it.

I think people would see that I tried to live life to the fullest. I tried to enjoy life and not have regrets. It is too easy to get in a rut and never push myself to do other things. I love to travel and meet new people even though I have a hard time meeting new people.

This would be a great activity for students to do. So many young people are dying at an early age. Some die from car wrecks, some from drugs, and some from different forms of violence. Students need to think about what people would say about them. Maybe this would help some students make better choices.

What would people say about you after you are gone? Please share.







Monday, February 19, 2018

Back of the Book Blurb #97 Challenge

From Sioux's PageSioux offers this challenge.

She posts a picture and you need to imagine it as a graphic for a book. You choose the genre and book title, and then write a blurb that might appear on the back of the book.

The blurb should be 150 words or less (not including the title). The genre is wide-open.
Each blogger should include their blurb on their own blog, and link back to this post. Have fun with it. Go to the other posts and comment on the other blurbs.  You can do fancy techy things with the photo.

(Join in if you dare...! It sounds like fun! I think this would be a lot of fun to do with students especially since they would be expected to write 150 words or less!)


On Vacation

Nick insisted on going on vacation! He just finished the busiest season at work and he deserved it. But the head elf and his wife were against it. They were worried about the attention it would draw and what people would think.

He said that he would go on a secret vacation and go incognito. No bodyguards, no assistants, just himself. He was going on a Caribbean cruise! He could just picture himself sitting on the beach, sunning himself.

And when someone comes up to him and asks him if he is Santa, he is going to just tell them that he is a lookalike. No one would think that Santa would be on a cruise! They would think he was hard at work at the North Pole getting ready for the next Christmas season.

He couldn’t wait to start on this new adventure! First, he had to start packing. (150 words)